To the Daddy Who Forgot His Baby in His Car …

To the Daddy who forgot his baby in his car …

I’m not here to judge you. I’m not here to bring you down any further than you already are at this point.

As a mom, I know how easily it is to forget things. I am a mother, I was born with a maternal instinct and I too know that mistakes can be made. I have found myself too often with a car full of kids, an infant too quiet to be noticed and thought for a split second that I may have left him at home. Just to realize he is in his car seat sleeping so peacefully that I too didn’t even realize it.

carseatI am also a wife. A wife to a husband. A wife to a daddy. I am a wife to the daddy of my children that has been a parent longer than I have. You see, this husband of mine lives in the moment. He thinks in the moment. Whatever is in front of him is what’s got his interest. He gets it honestly, it’s just who he is. I know that never in a million years he would intentionally forget them or do anything to harm them. But what I do know is this. He was not born with a maternal instinct. He is not a mamma. He does not know what it’s like to account for his kids every single second of a day. Like I said, it’s just who he is. Do I think that he would ever forget one of his kids in his truck? No. Do I think that such an unimaginable thing could happen to him? Yes. The reality of it is this: it could happen to anyone. It could very well happen to me with that quiet little infant sleeping in the back seat.

In this season of life, I wish now more than ever that social media didn’t exist. As if you didn’t already lose something so grand to you, now you’ve got everyone chiming in on how you didn’t love her. How you are worthless. How you didn’t deserve her. Well, I’m not here for that. I don’t know you. I don’t know your past. I don’t know what led up to that terrible day. But I do know that you are a human. We all are. All of us are capable of just as much as the other.

Today, my heart hurts for that sweet baby that is no longer here with us. My heart hurts for your family. My heart hurts for the world we live in today. My heart hurts for you. From deep down, it hurts so bad.

As a parent, I know you’ve lost a part of yourself. There is nothing that will ever replace that missing piece. My one hope today is that you and your family find peace in this terrible time.

24 Responses to To the Daddy Who Forgot His Baby in His Car …

  1. Yolanda Robertson June 10, 2016 at 9:34 am #

    Thanks Cassie you really blessed me !
    This was just beautiful and shared with love I felt it… what’s from the heart reaches the heart. The Mercers are dear friends of our family the mother of the baby and our daughter attended middle and high school together and are best friend. The father taught our granddaughter as well ! Please keep them in your prayers! Very sweet family that loves each other and there beautiful girl dearly. God Bless you and your family.

    • Bridget June 10, 2016 at 12:20 pm #

      I truly thank you for your understanding that this father honestly did not mean for for this to happen. As a Mother who lost a her only child, even though I got to spend 21 years with her, I live with this everyday, thinking if I could have done something, anything at all, my baby would still be here. I carry this with me everyday. Truly, I hope the system doesn’t convict this father because he will be on agony everyday as long as he lives. I pray that this father gain some type of understanding and ask God for forgiveness. I pray for the whole family.

  2. Jessica June 10, 2016 at 10:15 am #

    That was beautiful ?

  3. Lynette C Williams June 10, 2016 at 10:58 am #

    Thanks Cassie for your words, some of them my own. I too sometimes wish social media didn’t exist, however it’s here and I try to be mindful of what I say and do because it could somehow end up I here. I pray this family can heal from this tragedy.

  4. Ashtin Anio June 10, 2016 at 11:01 am #

    This it’s very thoughtful and heartfelt! They desperately need this type of support during this time!!! I’ll make sure she reads this❤️

  5. Danisha Golmond June 10, 2016 at 1:20 pm #

    This is beautiful and a wonderful article, very inspiring, it can happen to anyone

  6. Vera June 10, 2016 at 2:15 pm #

    Well said, thank you

  7. Carmen June 10, 2016 at 3:02 pm #

    Beautiful everyone is always so quick to judge a person guilty before proven innocent or guilty. This needs to Stop the Family is already hurting why add to the hurt and pain. My God hold the future and the past so Jesus Christ is the ultimate JUDGE so nothing else matters.

  8. Juanita June 10, 2016 at 4:15 pm #

    Cassie,
    These heartfelt words are truly outstanding! I can’t imagine what they are going through. I know that thoughts such as yours probably helps more than you would ever imagine. I agree with you on the social media. I call it social media courage because others would not otherwise make the statements that they do. I read your article twice and I would like to say thank you for sharing those words.

  9. Gloria June 10, 2016 at 4:39 pm #

    Kudos to you Cassie. I couldn’t have said it better.

  10. Chandra, Kaijhah, and Jason June 10, 2016 at 5:03 pm #

    I agree to everything that you said. Mr. Mercer keep your head up and know that their is only one man in this world who can judge you and that is God. My heart goes out to you and your wife and your family. KEEP GOD FIRST AND HE WILL BRING YALL THROUGH THIS!

  11. Chandra, Kaijhah, and Jason June 10, 2016 at 5:05 pm #

    I agree to everything that you said. Mr. Mercer keep your head up and know that there is only one man in this world who can judge you and that is God. My heart goes out to you and your wife and your family. KEEP GOD FIRST AND HE WILL BRING YALL THROUGH THIS!

  12. Daria June 10, 2016 at 5:38 pm #

    Thank you for this! My sentiments exactly. This could be anyone of us. My heart and prayers go out to this family!

  13. Catherine June 10, 2016 at 7:27 pm #

    It’s good to hear a non judgmental response to this tragic accident. I truly believe he didn’t intentionally leave his baby girl in the car. What we all need to do is lift them up in prayer. They need comfort and strength at this time.

  14. Nee nee June 10, 2016 at 8:23 pm #

    Amen. So beautifully said.God Bless him and his family

  15. Beatrice June 10, 2016 at 8:53 pm #

    This is so beautiful and so very well said. I too wish Social Media didn’t exist. It’s so easy to say “that could never be me or that would never be me” . How do you know. You don’t know. So never say what you wouldn’t do. No one knows what’s our plan in life is. Just know that father and family has a beautiful angel of protection watching over them. Please find comfort in knowing she will live on in your heart. God bless each of you???

  16. Shanan June 10, 2016 at 9:51 pm #

    My heart goes out to the father and his family??????

  17. Charla BR June 10, 2016 at 9:58 pm #

    Thank you for sharing such a beautiful message of forgiveness and compassion. The Mercers are a sweet young couple suffering from a tragedy that will haunt them forever. My heart and prayers go out to that sweet angels parents.

  18. Jennifer June 11, 2016 at 11:15 am #

    This needed to be said. Too many people out there judging. I’m a peds ICU nurse and I have seen it happen before … All to normal, busy,hard working parents. This family desperately needs prayers and compassion. They have mine!

  19. Crystal June 11, 2016 at 2:41 pm #

    Such a beautiful and much needed post. All the negativity will not bring the precious baby back.

  20. TMercer June 11, 2016 at 9:48 pm #

    Cassie. I am the sister of the father and I can’t tell you how much comfort you brought to my lil brother when we showed it to him.

    As a family, we are absolutely devastated but are holding tight to each other and God’s sovereignty.

    Thank you for being such a light to a tunnel of darkness. I will treasure your words in my heart because of your humanity towards someone you never met. The irony is I had just posted on my own social media page early last week that I really wish we could be nicer to one another and withhold judgment cuz…

    It’s all THEORY into its your REALITY!

    Love you oodles!

  21. TMercer June 11, 2016 at 9:50 pm #

    Correction… It’s all THEORY until its your REALITY!

    • Cassie June 13, 2016 at 8:39 pm #

      Wow! I’m in so much awe over everone’s comments! I’m so thankful so many could resonate with what was on my mind. My thoughts and prayers go out to the Mercer family, I couldn’t imagine bearing the weight of such a tragedy ❤️❤️

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